Ep42 Escaping The Container That Has You Stuck

Patricia Lindner 0:00

And sometimes one needs to really be soft and careful in the process of not going back, helping them figure out how to let go of this pattern, no matter where it came from, sometimes it's highly important to not go back, but to move on. And I like this, moving on, reconnecting with who they really are.

Jason Croft 0:23

What if the key to unlocking your full potential isn't about adding more but revealing what's already there in each episode of magnificence, host Patricia Lindner guides you to reveal your natural brilliance, remove what's been stopping you, and reconnect to your authentic power. Join us as we explore how to access the magnificence that lives within us all.

Patricia Lindner 0:48

Hello and welcome to another episode of the new version of magnificence. I am overly excited to talk about a very important topic today that is about finding yourself in a place where you feel totally stuck because this story is happening again and again, over and over again, and it feels like you are almost imprisoned In this spiral or circle of an ongoing story, that could be body wise, that could be relationship wise, that could be in the entrepreneurial space. And I think it is worthwhile talking about that and how to really find the exit out of this space, and what you can do to really improve that and change for the better, and I'm so excited that again, Jason Croft is with me, and I am happy that you are by my side having this conversation about such a highly important topic today. Hello and welcome Jason.

Jason Croft 1:56

Thank you so much. Happy to be here. Always, always fun, great conversations. So I know that's one of the things that spawned this dynamic for the shows, because we we would have these conversations, you know, across the seas, as it were, and really, really important topics. So I love that you're getting these out in ways that can really help someone who is listening right now, but also just have an awareness, oh, there's a way out. There's something that can be done about this

Patricia Lindner 2:33

exactly, exactly. And this topic of stuck, which is a such a common word, and it feels like overused. But the strange thing is that when people talk to me, they feel like, yeah, how should I describe it? I simply feel stuck or lost. These are two words that come up very often, and they describe it that way, and that could be in any area of their lives. And as you said, it is so important to point out ways of how to really start figuring out ways of getting yourself unstuck and moving on. It's about moving on and letting go of this spiral in this old container of stuckness that keeps you small, that keeps you stressed out by an ongoing pattern or issue. Yeah, yeah. And

Jason Croft 3:38

I love that, that language to get you moving. I think that's, that's the piece of all this and and I think that stuck language is so appropriate, because that is, that's how it feels again, in whatever area, it's just I can't that's this feeling of just, I can't move. I can't get out of this here I am again thinking the same thing or the same circumstances are showing up. Yeah. How do I exit this?

Patricia Lindner 4:08

Yeah, yeah. And what comes to my mind right now when you say that is like people often feel like they are cemented in a situation that could be having to deal with their body symptoms or experiencing the same thing in their relationship over and over again, feeling mistreated, feeling unsuccessful In the entrepreneurial realm, and it is about moving on. And it is about um stopping this train that goes 100 miles per hour into the wrong direction, into the direction

Jason Croft 4:56

in a circle, right? It's like you. No, no,

Patricia Lindner 5:00

exactly. There is no way out there, and it goes even faster and faster. The more they complain about that, the more they share about that, because that is giving this train even more speed to really go in this circle and to to get people, or let people feel stuck in this space. And so there is a one thing that I would love to talk about. It's really slowing the train down. Slowing that train down that is a very important thing to unstuck yourself. And how can you do that? You can stop talking about things that often. You can stop sharing about the misery you're experiencing. And now I know what lots of people will think, how could I stop talking about the pain that I experience in my body, and I'm allowed to say that, because that is another story of mine. You can, you can. That does not mean that you need to be the hero and never, ever talk about things that go wrong. Yeah,

Jason Croft 6:18

and this point is really important, because it's energy, right? It's energy, it's focus. It's bringing attention. Whether it's something that happened in the past or it's something negative you're experiencing right now, the more you talk about it, the more like you know, anyone who will listen talk, you know, it's almost like you're, you're fighting for your you're fighting to keep it almost and it's that seems backwards, because I've consciously you're, you're not. But there's, there's a piece of, okay, what are you getting out of doing that right? Again, taking ownership, taking control. Is there something I'm getting out of that and and maybe it's just a pattern you again. It's that train in the circle. Maybe you're just stuck in that pattern. And that's it's so important to take that first step. What's that first step? Is that first step simply just kind of stop giving it so much attention? Yeah,

Patricia Lindner 7:27

I think that is one of the first steps, really giving it less attention and being aware, just putting yourself in this position of observing yourself doing so. And once that happens, once you that might sound weird, once you can see that from a made up perspective, and you see yourself, and you hear yourself talking about this issue again. And Hey, Jason, I want to complain again about blah, blah, blah. Then you realize, oh, I'm doing it again, and I am really making this pattern deeper and stronger and more ongoing, and I get more stuck, and I contribute to that because I do that. And so this awareness point is really a big one. And also you talked about frequency, and I really want to talk about the energy, the energetic frequency of being in despair, being in grief, anxiety, fear, rage is a bit higher. But those frequencies, sadness, grief, guilt, shame, they are really low frequencies, and when you talk about things that cause you feel fear, shame, guilt, despair, then you vibrate at a very low level, at a very low frequency. And our goal should be to be happy and to really get things going to being in the flow. And if you want that, you just have to gradually give up this moving in those low frequencies and just take it one step at a time. And if you feel anger, that's amazing, because anger is something that is active, that's not like sadness or, Oh, I'm so ashamed. And then you move on and move on and you move on. And once you reach a frequency of so it's in hertz, 400 hertz, that's amazing. There is this hope and bliss and excitement. Then. Things move, and you can see and feel and sense that when I talk about this, it's grief, it's sadness, it's anger, and then there's excitement, bliss, expectation, and this gets you going, that gets you out of this stuck mode. Oftentimes you can't tell yourself just Yeah, I will stop that. And then I move higher on this frequency letter. Sometimes it needs support and sometimes it needs letting go of old patterns, of old stories, of old beliefs, so that you can vibrate at vibrate at a higher frequency, of course, but that's the process, and it works. It's like so if we would love to visit each other, I would need to make the first step outside of my house, then drive to the airport and then take a plane. And it's not like this. It will take me quite some hours to visit you, Jason, and I would not complain on the plane that I'm not there yet, and would tell the pilot to turn around, because I will never, ever get to Colorado. I'd trust the process. This is a gradual process to more bliss and to meeting someone, for example. I hope that was something that just pictured this process. Yeah,

Jason Croft:
11:37

it's such a great analogy to accepting that it is a process. It does take time. And hopefully there's a hopefulness, oh, there's actually a plane there. It's possible, it's to even know that and then take those steps towards it. I'm I'm curious, because I've experienced this a lot in in areas, and that awareness piece comes in. Certainly, you're spot on with that be because, you know, I would, I would hear myself saying the same thing over and over again in verse, not because I wanted to even say it, because, you know, someone's asked me, Hey, how is this going? And I that, that feeling you talk about, oh, low frequency, that feeling of like I am exhausted by my own words saying this same thing again and again. I'm sickened by this and and that's a good place to start, right? Like you said, like getting frustrated with it first and to get out of it. I'm, I'm curious to know your your insights on on this aspect, because I with all of this right, even, even bigger than the topic we're talking about today, this idea of getting better, right, personal development, growth, you know, introspection, all of it, there's a piece of, why is this happening, you know, why am I stuck here? Why am I in this loop and trying to figure that out. And I think there's, I think there's value in that to a point, and then it becomes just one more thing you're spiraling in. I know for me, I love that I spit time and, oh, why is this? This is interesting. Why is this pattern, you know, but it at one point again, that exhaustion, I am just sickness. I'm just gonna, I don't care anymore. Why I just, I gotta do something different and take some some action. Where do you see that that balance for yourself, for your clients, for anyone, and trying to diagnose a little bit, hey, maybe where this came from, and then, hey, it doesn't matter. Here's how we move forward. Where's Is there a ratio? Or

Patricia Lindner:
14:21

yeah, thank you for asking that. Sometimes it really doesn't matter. And I just think of a client I worked with two days ago, and she was caught in this space of constantly feeling like not being good enough that got her stuck in this pattern of under valuing her services as a lawyer, and that made her really blame herself for being so stupid and stuff like that. And I did not want to go. Go to the origin because she was really in a depressed state. And so as you ask me, Is there a balance? Sometimes it's not important to go to a place and maybe re traumatize someone. Sometimes it's you can do it in a very elegant way and figure out what's going on without going back to the root cause or to a perpetrator or something that happened to someone. And you can do that with several things, like there is logo synthesis, just to name one of the processes that I offer, and people will feel an instant relief of what they first of all told themselves, and then it's like, oh, I can recall that, but it's gone somehow, and I feel much freer and I don't feel that stuck anymore. Sometimes it's highly important to to figure out why they why they feel imprisoned in a certain pattern, and what keeps them from getting out of this. I want to call it container, because sometimes this narrow, really small container feels familiar. Sometimes it's like a secret code where they need to stay inside and they don't dare to step outside this box. So sometimes it's important to really figure out what is this, where does this come from? And how can I break free from this small, narrow container that doesn't support me anymore, that makes me feel stuck and realize that this and this, I think that is highly important figure out that life is full of such containers that are relationships, that is a career, that is being part of a group, that is school, that is anything could be a container. And once we outgrow we do not need to just squeeze ourselves in, but solve this pattern of why we squeeze in, why we are afraid of moving on, and then see there is always a bigger container. There is always a bigger container. And isn't it exciting to fill this bigger space with new things that feel aligned, that feel exciting? And so I point that process out, and people really love this vision or perspective of entering a bigger container, of raising their vibration and stepping into a new space, a bigger space expanding. I don't know if this answered your question.

Jason Croft:
18:04

It does. I think it's, it's great to kind of give hope, and it is, of course, like so many things, dependent on that person. And this, I like that you brought up an example too, that it sometimes, it's a it's the state they're in at that moment. Going back isn't going to get them moving forward. Sometimes they're in a place maybe that it does help, because this is something that's come up over and over again. We need to, we need to at least see the direction where this thing kind of came from, so we can maybe externalize it and see that, oh, this isn't you inherently, this came from somewhere, you know. And you can change this. This is you can decide that that next step, yeah, and

Patricia Lindner:
18:52

sometimes it's, it's like, I don't know if I can use that word ripe. Something is ripe to be seen. I don't know if this is something that I could say, sometimes they are ready to see there is an epigenetic pattern that runs through their family lineage. Sometimes they're ready to let go of a bad story that they experience when they were younger, and sometimes one needs to really be soft and careful in the process of not going back, but just helping them figure out how to let go of this pattern, no matter where it came from, sometimes It's highly important to not go back, but to move on. And I like this moving on and reconnecting with who they really are, process,

Jason Croft:
19:51

yeah, again, moving right. I think that motion, that energy, and that's that's good, hopefully. This is, this has been been good and eye opening for for folks out there. I love this because this is, it's important. This affects so many. It affects everyone to some degree or another, but it also affects so many areas of your life, not just in those containers, like you mentioned, but that ripple effect how you relate to your kids, to your coworkers, to the person you see on the street like you show up differently as you get out of these lower frequencies and into those higher frequencies. And it's nothing short of changing the world, right when we can all move up in those frequencies, and

Patricia Lindner:
20:43

when things are not stuck, but in the flow, you will feel happy, you will feel healthy, you will feel abundant. And I think that is the state that we want to achieve and want to keep. And I think the most important message to rob this conversation up is you can do everything about that, because you can figure out your innate brilliance. You can let go of everything that keeps you stuck, and you can reconnect to who you really are, no matter what area you feel imprisoned in, stuck in or going in those circles, you can do that. I'm so sure, and I'm so excited that we had this conversation, Jason, and I'm so happy that you listened to our deep and meaningful, full conversation today. Thank you, Jason for being here and having this conversation with me again.

Jason Croft:
21:45

Absolutely happy to be here. Thank you for joining us for another episode of magnificence. Remember your path to success isn't about discovering something new, it's about revealing the power you already possess. If you're ready to take the next step in uncovering your own magnificence, schedule an illumination call@patricialindner.com make sure to subscribe to the show and join us next time, as we continue exploring practical ways to unlock your natural brilliance. Until then, trust that your magnificence is already within you, ready to shine through you.